It’s Not Always About the Voice: Why the Matriarchal Style of storytelling opens new worlds

Truth is a chorus of infinite chords singing as one. When you understand that fact, you understand you can tell stories that way. It is the difference between a ray of light and a rainbow. A Patriarchal Style is the style of One with a single voice and a single narrative. It is about a point of view. The Matriarchal Style is the style of Infinity with a weave of voices with less focus on a point of view. It is not always about voice, but it is about finding the truth within the chorus.

At our most basic form, men hunt and women gather. Men look to take the One, while women look to take the Infinite. The method of focussing and the skill sets required to do each job is very specific and very different.

Yet there is one profession where you become intellectually androgynous by the very nature of what is required to be successful: journalism.

You cannot just be a gatherer. You cannot just be a hunter. You absolutely have to be both in equal measure to survive in that business. There are very few professions that train you to be both equally.

You gather facts. You hunt for sources. You sift through facts; you shadow your subject. You process those facts to find truths just as you ask the questions that aim straight for the heart of the subject to find another set of truths: you bring them both together and produce a story.

Men can be gatherers. Women can be hunters, but that does not mean that hunting is more important than the gathering or vice versa.

They are equal and they are wonderful traits to fully explore to get the most of it.

In storytelling, it has been unequal. We have stories based on the patriarchal style, but the true matriarchal has been left aside. There is no reason for this chasm. The gathering style has a lot going for it. You can focus on truth over voice. You can get your readers to actively participate in a different way by putting forth a series of stories and let them gather the ones they want with vastly different results based on the stories they read and the order they read it. They learn to respect the chorus as they lose their fear of the Infinite.

The Truth is beautiful and it sings, after all.

We can learn to empathize because different points of view are presented from the onset. We learn that narrative is not the be all and end all of telling a story. The epistolary approach of merely presenting bits and pieces of facts without a narrative – *the way every real journalist has to put together a story every day* – allows the reader to let go of pre-set notions such as hero, supporting player, and even villain. We learn not to always look to “blame” others for mistakes, but see what our obstacles are so we can build mutually beneficial solutions just as we learn that we don’t have to compete with people for the title of hero, or worse, *victim* – we can cooperate as we shine in our own stories without trying to upstage people to validate ourselves.

We can evolve past a pecking order. We can see that our one world is a living, never-ending, spinning story machine that has infinite fables unfolding every moment.

And with that, we can finally start writing the stories that begin at Happily Ever After, so we can finally make the maps of how to grow and nurture our utopic mosaic where truth can be embraced without fear that we are less deserving of kindness or good things happening to us.

I made the conscious decision to be a matriarchal storyteller and not just because I am a woman: it is time for us to embrace the ways of those who gather those grains of truths to tell a new kind of story for a world that is in need of more nurturing so that much of the pain, hurt, anger, fear, violence and hatred can finally start to disappear so that the real work can truly begin.