Here is a garbage article in the Globe and Mail that is the absolute worst advice anyone can give to ambitious women:
Stop telling women they must change themselves to become leaders
No, fairy princess, get over yourself.
Obviously someone was raised on old patriarchal fairytales and related to the fairy princess rather than the hero.
A fairy princess, or damsel-in-distress is the slot for characters who never grow and change, and hence, always need someone else to rescue them.
The hero, on the other hand, evolves, grows, see his deficiencies, learns the skills needed, makes the attitude adjustment, and changes and transforms himself to victory.
Transmutation is the breakfast of champions.
Staying just the way you are is passive, stagnant, and the Supper of Losers.
Those who don’t change die out. This is basic evolution. Movement is so critical that even physically staying in place causes the body to decay.
Let alone the mind.
To stay in place — physically, emotionally, and mentally — is a freeze response — a sign of both fear and defeat.
Women’s glass ceiling is a two-sided one: yes, men have kept women back, but women have kept themselves back thinking that not to change means decisiveness.
No, it means defeat. It is a form of self-sabotage.
If the lessons and evolution of life has not inspired you to radically change over the years, you are unteachable. Not just in responses, but in personality.
Far from women not changing, they should radically change and frequently.
You should break your routines and habits every so often in order to shake yourself — and your environment — out of slumber.
Because success depends on it.
For example, many people — men and women — stall in their careers and don’t know why.
They have a problem called a panda: there is something real — and defective — in their personality that prevents anymore promotions. They are clinging on to a rote routine or bad habit that keeps them back.
It is not the workplace. It is the person who refuses to look inward, get feedback, and change.
And because women have had less experience in leadership roles, they do not have a wealth of history to draw from.
But men have countless manuals with the common theme of how to adopt and change in order to obtain success.
The power rests within them.
If you are a woman and think you are perfect and have no need to change, motherfucker, you are going to make life a whole lot harder for yourself for no reason at all.
You are not showing strength by staying just the way you are. You are showing a lack of growth potential.
You have to be inconvenienced. You have to have the ability to admit you are wrong and deficient because people are not born equipped to be perfect.
We have an ability to learn, grow, and change.
And it should be something to embrace.
The strong are those who change. Leaders are those who change. They are not intimidated by novelty and learning new ways of being.
Women do need to change. In fact, when they did change, they got a massive improvement in their lots in life. When they sat back meekly, they were their husband’s property who weren’t allowed to vote or have rights.
When they changed first, guess what? So did the laws. Had even more women gotten involved, they would have gotten more rights even sooner.
Had women stayed the same, they still would be their husband’s properties not allowed to be educated or vote or do anything they wanted or needed.
And in order for your actions to change, your thinking needs to change.
And in order for your thinking to change, your attitude has to change.
And in order for your attitude to change, your personality has to change, too.
You turn the leaden shackles in your heart into the golden lasso that helps you climb to the top.
And there is nothing wrong with changing. It is how the brave thrive under any circumstance.
How will you ever reach your potential standing in one place thinking the same thoughts and way?
Deal with it…